“He has this ponytail you don’t forget” -mm

i think what i want to ask is how are you
but what i say is something else entirely
like we have been trying for years now
speaking to each other in different languages
even as we write in english
giving answers to questions none of us asked
disjointed conversations with each other's shadows
the echoing unsaid syllables in the space between

somehow,
from this we manage semblances of communication
maybe in one-hundred words one resonates in your ear
(for me it is thank you, for you is it yellow?)
we used to exchange thousands on the regular
so many my computer drowns the way i used to
the way i still do whenever i find myself trapped in
their endless mazes, unable to compute to search
and find the meanings illuminated in the cold blue light

i live far away now Henry
all the things i can't say
i wonder at the word can't
shouldn't? don't want to?
i think this is my longest exercise in self-reflection
looking in mirrors and finding myself lost
looking in mirrors in my own eyes

the unwritten letters in the space between
i will forgive almost anything you say
if you write it seriously, if you say it with respect

up neon lights sprinting, you say we are running
and i want to ask: are we running to something or away?

today we sit in wooster square under the trees
the urge to touch you inexplicable
an old itch, unconscious
the thin curve of your fingernails
your folded legs
the space of skin above your shirt

later on my bed i cry to Marina
tears not for you, but for the loss of intimacy
broken in the space between,
known by my mind and not my body

confused that the last time saw each other
we were standing in the snow, kissing.

you talk about so many things,
a baby passing by, the lady behind us asking for my

pocket knife over and over again.
you tell her we should hold the fabric

tauter, so it will cut more easily.
i read your steadfastness as rejection.

my body aching from the not-reaching
from the mental disconnect with how easy

it feels to reach out and reach and bridge the distance.
the distance that is infinite, even as you sit

next to me on this green bench.
the disconnect blinding me even as we walk down
the street together and you joke as though you are
angry at me (you swear you are not) pushing
the lowest buttons you can push
making me bleed at my knees

and when i get home i cry for not being able to touch you
for not being able to be held by someone i once loved

until i see the scrapes you have given me
unconsciously, consciously, cut my knees a thousand times

and i think
maybe i just need to tend to myself.

i give myself permission to hate you.

even if it doesn't make sense.
even if you won't understand.